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Groups & Workshops For survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse – Clients 

 

One in Four is an equal opportunity service and we recognise that both female and males survivors are to have equal access to our service. All workshops are open to women and men.

Free – Awareness Raising Workshops for Clients – 2014

All workshops are delivered in an accepting environment that promotes self-awareness and exploration. Whilst individuals will take away what they need from our work together, the workshops are not a substitute for therapy and we always recommend individuals ensure they have emotional support in place if they feel the content may stimulate past experiences.

Abandonment – Saturday 22nd November 2014

Abandoholism sets in when you’ve been hurt so many times that you’ve come to equate insecurity with love. Unless you’re pursuing someone you’re insecure about, you don’t feel in love.

Conversely, when someone comes along who wants to be with you, that person’s availability fails to arouse the required level of insecurity. If you can’t feel those yearning, lovesick feelings, then you don’t feel attracted, so you keep pursuing unavailable partners.

Abandoholism is driven by both fear of abandonment and fear of engulfment.

When you’re attracted to someone, it arouses a fear of losing that person. This fear causes you to become clingy and needy. You try to hide your insecurity, but your desperation shows through, causing your partners to lose romantic interest in you. They sense your emotional suction cups aiming straight toward them and it scares them away.

Fear of engulfment is at the opposite end of the spectrum. It occurs when someone is pursuing you and now you’re the one pulling back. You feel engulfed by that person’s desire to be with you. When fear of engulfment kicks in, you panic. Your feelings shut down. You no longer feel the connection. The panic is about your fear of being engulfed by the other person’s emotional expectations of you. You fear that the other person’s feelings will pressure you to abandon your own romantic needs.

Fear of engulfment is one of the most common causes for the demise of new relationships, but it is carefully disguised in excuses like: “He just doesn’t turn me on.” Or “I don’t feel any chemistry.” Or “She’s too nice to hold my interest.” Or “I need more of a challenge.”

Abandoholics tend to swing back and forth between fear of abandonment and fear of engulfment. You’re either pursuing hard-to-get-lovers, or you’re feeling turned off by someone who IS interested in you.

These patterns may have been cast in childhood. You struggled to get more attention from your parents but you were left feeling unfulfilled, which caused you to doubt your self-worth. Over time, you internalized this craving for approval and you learned to idealize others at your own expense. This became a pattern in your love-relationships.

Now as an adult, you recreate this scenario by giving your love-partners all of your power, elevating them above yourself, recreating those old familiar yearnings you grew accustomed to as a child. Feeling emotionally deprived and “less-than” is what you’ve come to expect.

Please note that our groups are mixed gender and are free

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.

Carl Roger

 

    

 

7 Week Self Help Group – 24/10/14 – 5/12/14

One in Four has been awarded a grant from Lewisham Council  to develop and deliver a series of  workshops for survivors of sexual abuse and/or sexual violence.

The groups are facilitated by trained and Accredited Counsellors / Psychotherapists over a seven week period. Each session lasts for 90 minutes with a membership of no more than 10 individuals. The sessions are open female and male group members. This is part of our aim to support individuals who access our services.

The workshops focus on the following themes:

  • The Effects of Childhood Sexual Abuse
  • Relationships
  • Shame
  • Anger
  • Co-dependency
  • Self  Blame
  • Your Emotional Self

The group meet at our South East London branch: between the hours of 11.30am – 1pm  at One in Four, 219 Bromley Road, London, SE6 2PG.

 

For further information,please contact

Catherine [Clinical Co-ordinator] on Tel: 0208 697 2112

 

 

CONTINUED PROFESSIONAL TRAINING ONLY

Dates for your diary 2014

Saturday 29th November 2014

 ONE IN FOUR PRESENTS

TRAINING WITH CHRISTIANE SANDERSON

On

Practical Tools for Working with Clients

          Further Information to follow

 

Previous Training CPD training:  Inside the mind of a paedophile.  PTSD.  Domestic violence.  Shame and self harm.  Traumatic bonding.  Borderline personality disorder.  Dissociative identity disorder.  Sexual disorders and paraphillias. Understanding the dynamics that occur between the survivor and significant others in their lives, Internal protectors and saboteurs.  If you would like to be included on a mailing list for future training, please contact admin@oneinfour.org.uk  or call 020 8697 2112 or 0208 697 8022.


 

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Croydon, CR9 4HH

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The cost for this workshop is £65.00 per delegate

(2 course lunch included)

 

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Christianne Sanderson author of The Spirit Within and Father Tom Doyle who wrote the foreword

Director Linda Dominguez

Author Christiane Sanderson

Balloons

The Launch of One in Four’s handbook ‘The Warrior Within’ was a great success. More info and photos coming soon. In the meantime, you can find more info about the book and buy online here.

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Beyond the Fire Screening

 

 

A NEW PLAY FROM MOSAC FROM THE MOUTHS OF MOTHERS is a powerful and inspiring drama which tells seven true stories of child sexual abuse using verbatim theatre techniques. 

FROM THE MOUTHS OF MOTHERS was created by London-based playwright Amanda Stuart Fisher from 14 hours of interviews with mothers who had discovered that their children had been sexually abused.

Alright, he got his silly five years but he only done eighteen months or something and he’s free now – he can do what he likes. But all three of my children have got a sentence for life.

The play shares with us the voices of mothers who have had to fight to get the support their children needed in the face of terrifying abuse.

Through these interweaved narratives, we learn about failings in Britain’s judicial processes, a lack of support and recognition in the social services and doctors who overlook the physical signs of abuse. 

Crossing all walks of life, the play brings us stories of the mothers who become fighters for their children, who risk losing everything in their bid to protect their children from further abuse.

The judge said: ‘if I make an order to allow your father to apply for contact, you realise you have to comply, you have no choice.’ I just basically stood up and I said I don’t care who tells me… I will not subject my daughter to further abuse. I would rather go to prison’

 

FROM THE MOUTHS OF MOTHERS was created as a collaboration with Mosac, a UK charity which supports non-abusing parents and carers of children whose children have been sexually abused and The Royal Central School of Speech & Drama, University of London and Awards for All.

FROM THE MOUTHS OF MOTHERS will be at The Pleasance, Islington from 22-25 May.  Tickets are £12, £10 concessions and can be purchased at www.pleasance.co.uk.

 

For more information this production  please contact Rasheeda Nalumoso at malumoso@msn.com or call +447980439517

For more information online please visit www.pleasance.co.uk .

For more information on Mosac and its support for non-abusing parents and carers of sexually abused children, please visit www.mosac.org.uk.